Last night our big kids were both out having a sleepover. What did that mean for Caleb and I? Date night!
Thinking back, it occurred to me how much the definition of “date night” has changed over time. Life sure is funny that way.
Date Night Before Kids:
Anytime you get dressed up and get out of the house – dinner, movie, party…
Date Night After Baby:
Anytime you drop baby off with Grandma and Grandpa to get dressed up and go out – dinner, movie, party…
Date Night With Two Kids:
Anytime you drop the kids off with Grandma and Grandpa. Now, the date includes things like – getting groceries and running errands. You may start arranging a paid babysitter for those “special events” – the movies, dinners and parties (as they are all now planned well in advance).
Date Night With Two Kids and Twins:
Anytime the big kids are out of the house.
This was us last night. What did we do? Went for a walk with the babies, stopped at Subway for dinner (because why would we cook for just the two of us?), came home. We put the twins to bed, poured a glass of wine, queued up Netflix (more specifically, House of Cards), and cuddled on the couch with a blanket, leaving our phones upstairs.
We still have amazing people around us who will take all four of our kids (no paid sitters yet), so don’t get me wrong, we still have our specially “planned-ahead-of-time” dates; those special events – usually revolving around a birthday, anniversary, or something work-related. But it’s just… different.
I know date nights will continue to change as our children inevitably grow – into adolescents… and then teenagers (yikes).
*Envisioned Date Nights with Teenagers:
I’m reminded of the television sitcom, “The Middle.” If you haven’t watched it, you should. I can’t help but relate to the mom’s character. It’s great comic relief, poking fun of the not-so-fun parts of being a middle-class parent.
In one episode, it’s Valentines Day and the parents decide to go out for dinner (their kids all have plans of their own). In one way or another, each of their kids need them for something and by the end of the episode they’re sitting in the restaurant along with their 3 children – date night turned family night. And they realize – they wouldn’t have it any other way.
Funny, life is. Looking back on how our date nights have changed, I only wish I could have had the perspective I have now, in those moments back then. I suppose I feel this way about everything.
If only I could have the perspective on life that I will have when I’ve reached my 80s, granted I get to see them. If only I could have that perspective NOW. How differently I’m sure I would be living my life… my everyday. I’ll never be able to say it enough: Life is funny.